…and why?
Is it a biological function?
a feelgood ‘commodity’?
a means of power over?
an expression of human emotion?
a way to get what you want?
a need?
a descriptor?
What? What is ’sex’ for you? How do you understand it - and why? What is this thing we call ’sex’?
I’ll allow every comment that comes in response to this post - trolls, MRA’s and all (:rolleyes:).
16 responses so far ↓
RenegadeEvolution // April 21, 2007 at 9:38 am
WW: all of the above.
sarmorrow // April 21, 2007 at 12:24 pm
**resisting like mad the impulse to waffle on about semantics and words**
belledame222 // April 21, 2007 at 8:36 pm
all of the above, and:
a profoundly spiritual experience, sometimes in ways and with people and circumstances you wouldn’t expect at all
cheap thrills in the back of my car
“the cream in my coffee, the salt in my stew”
an expression of the life force, -eros-, which, like life itself, manifests itself in a thousand thousand ways and more, often surprising–if you let yourself be surprised.
dreamy5 // April 22, 2007 at 12:10 am
Sex is: biological (one has vulva or penis). Sex is: psychological (gender role). Sex is: verb (copulation). Sex is: religious affiliation. (”Sects.” Get it? Huh? Sorry, couldn’t resist.)
Burrow // April 22, 2007 at 1:41 am
hehehe
Sophie // April 22, 2007 at 6:18 am
Well hey, you said you’d allow every comment
Sex is pain. For a long long time I thought people who liked sex liked pain. I’m beginning to get that most of you don’t think like that.
Everything’s a journey. Thanks to religion, I have no ability to learn this journey for myself.
dreamy5 // April 22, 2007 at 4:42 pm
Sophie, I hope whoever did that to you has to fully face what he did someday and account for it.
Liz // April 22, 2007 at 7:42 pm
I think, for me subjectively, sex is expression of human emotion and desire. I think desire is desire of a person as a whole (ie. not just about being attracted to someone because of looks). It’s (the good kind) sensual and embracing and happiness inducing.
Liz // April 22, 2007 at 7:43 pm
Also forgot to include sex as a means to intimacy with someone.
drakyn // April 22, 2007 at 10:47 pm
Sex is:
Biological sex is male, female, or various forms of intersex. These are defined by things such as genitals, chromosomes, hormones, reproductive organs, etc. (Bio-sex is not to be confused with gender identity, which is often defined as how a person sees themself. Grrl, boi, man, woman, guy, butch, genderqueer, genderneutral, etc. Gender identity should als not be confused with gender/sex role. feminity, masculinity, boys wear pink and girls wear pale blue, men fight and women nurture, etc.)
Sexual intercourse:
Is defined differently and means different things to everyone.
Some people define it as PiV, others as anything that brings mutual pleasure.
Some people see sex as a way to produce children, others as a good time, and still others see sex as the highest expression of love. Some people use sex to get what they want, some use it to control people, some use it to have fun and to socialize with one or more people.
I see sex as something fun, but just like drinking, is something I only want to do with people I love and trust. Sex is something that could be used to hurt me, but it can also be used to give me strength.
Sex is one way to show love, or to just have fun.
Sexxy: (alternative spellings include seksi, sexy, and sexi)
Often used to describe someone that the user wishes to have sex with. Or someone who is very attractive.
Can also be used to mean “totally wicked awesome”, ie: “your new laptop is the seksiest thing I have ever seen.”
Arantxa // April 24, 2007 at 12:13 am
Thank you for pointing that out Sophie. We seem to be talking about sex in the abstract. The reality of sex is, for most women, very far removed from this notion of caring and sharing that we would like sex to be. The sex that many women experience is about having their bodies and spirits broken.
c // April 24, 2007 at 7:24 pm
Really, really just want to say ditto what Arantxa just said.
Liz // April 24, 2007 at 9:09 pm
I do agree with Arantxa, because what I described as sex is not everyone’s reality - and many women think of sex as pain and humiliation or as a means of control. My definition was rather subjective (as I have had only one sexual partner and we are still together).
Arantxa // April 24, 2007 at 10:12 pm
Liz, I think it’s great that your subjective definition of sex is what it is
emma // April 25, 2007 at 10:55 pm
Sex is like a knife, you can use it to make something wonderful, or you can use it wound someone, it depends on the person wielding it.
No // May 11, 2007 at 5:46 am
Sex is something I can’t really participate in, and I don’t know if I ever will be able to have sex in my life without all the pain and fear attached to it. Sex is something I know I ’should’ participate in. Sex is something I quite often do want in my head and my dreams and even in my body, but I can’t translate that into reality. Sex is a weapon. Sex is all different things to different people. I don’t think it’s inherently bad, but for me personally sex equates with panic and fear and a need to escape.
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